This question is asked in every interview on “The Conversation with Amanda de Cadanet,” a new Q&A-style show on Lifetime. Amanda interviews women (mostly celebs) about everything from politics and money to sex and body image. It’s a fascinating show. Jane Fonda, Arianna Huffington and Melissa McCarthy have been some of my favorite guests so far. If Amanda could get Oprah on the show, I’m pretty sure the universe would explode from all the female empowerment vibes. 🙂
Back to the question at hand: What would you tell your 14-year-old self?
For me, freshman year of high school was bittersweet. I was super excited to be on pep squad because it was the required stepping stone before trying out for dance team. I’d wanted to be on dance team – specifically Marshall’s dance team – since I was 9 years old, when my cousin Jana was on Marshall’s dance team and we went to a football game to see her perform at halftime. Also, I was pretty excited about high school in general. I imagined it was going to be a lot of fun – driving, dating, dance team. What wasn’t to like?
The bitter part was that the friends I hung out with in middle school all went to a different high school. At first this didn’t seem like a huge deal because the girls I knew who were going to Marshall (and also joining pep squad) were girls I’d known since elementary school. Most of them lived in my neighborhood. But, I learned quickly, not being part of their group in middle school made me not really part of their group in high school, especially in the beginning. It was awkward, and for most of the four years I felt like I was just sort of hovering around them. All of that started first thing freshman year.
There were guys I liked who didn’t like me. There were guys who liked me that I didn’t like. There were good friends I made who managed to get folded into the bigger group without me. There were girls who were just plain mean. High school was a lot more turbulent than I expected. It wasn’t an awful four years, just different from what I’d imagined in my head.
Being on the outskirts of things and being on the defense hardened me. Then all that stuff from the setbacks post happened during the college years and that hardened me a lot. I became depressed and angry and mean. It was exhausting, and difficult to break. If I’m being totally honest, I’m still working on it.
So, what would I tell my 14-year-old self?
Stuff doesn’t always happen the way you’d like, but no matter what, always take care of yourself, practice being patient and stay open-hearted.
What are y’all’s answers?